Measuring the years

Hullo! It’s been a while since my last blog and I decided it was time to break the silence (ha ha). In two days, we’ll be ushering in a brand new month! April 2020! Wow. How about that right?!

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photo credit – Kevin Grieve via

Nothing too significant has changed for me personally, but I will say this. Each year a lot of emotional growth takes place which allows me to look at life a bit differently in order to continue producing work that brings about a change in myself and those around me.

If it weren’t for those quiet moments of solitude and introspection (however fleeting), I wouldn’t be able to see the silver lining on every dark cloud that comes with immersing yourself in this mystifying dance of life. And without those moments, there’d be no leeway to make a big enough change for progress.¬†

When I began this new realm of writing (and speaking full-time) in 2014, each new year was simply an extension of the previous one. The reason? My career peak came when my talents were finally realized both by consistent and genuine appreciation in those moments and the exponential monetary rewards that came with it – even by those who I’d only met once and were sold for whatever was needed at that juncture in their life.

Though these factors were present at different intervals in most of my full-time jobs, the feeling is unmatched when you ‘give birth’ to something you created from scratch. Whether it’s an article, a book, a workshop or an event that exceeded your wildest expectations just by virtue of your PASSION¬† for the PURPOSE it was intended.

This is my experience; yours may be playing a musical instrument, singing, cooking, building, web design or electronic repair. It’s a deeply satisfying feeling when someone tells you in a completely genuine way, or you observe for yourself how much your work has impacted their life or way of operating/being.

There’s no words.

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Photo credit – Joyce McCown via

It actually fuels your spirit to continue putting your all into everything you do. Not to get approval or validation anymore (each time), but because you now have an obligation to live up to those standards and the bar you have set for your work and yourself. To drop your standards would be diluting your brand Рwhat your work says about you as a person. 

For me, my purpose for doing a task is always to fill a real need in another person’s life. I always say that if your main goal for doing something is to get praise and recognition and earn a lot of money from the get-go and you’re devastated when it doesn’t happen soon enough, you either haven’t laid the ground work to reap and appreciate the fruits of your labour. Or you are in the wrong field altogether and the passion for pushing through is painstakingly arduous because there’s no real spark or love for the work.

I like to compare lack of career fulfillment to unrequited love. It’s visible when something is not done from the heart. It’s visible to an amateur with no experience in the field, or an innocent bystander. It just doesn’t seem effortless or seamless, rather forced and sometimes disjointed or ostentatious. And the details apparent to those with the requisite training, experience and exposure to similar work, experiences and people.

If I find myself suddenly stuck; losing momentum, passion for my work, the people around me, my environment or life on the whole, I pull myself away from it all (as practically as possible – given the circumstances) to be alone with my thoughts or do something I consider fun that will allow time to regroup and find my groove and inner joy once again.

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Photo credit – Jeanson Wong via

If I can’t find the space to get to the root of those feelings naturally, I’d end up doing less than a great job, my energy levels would wane and I’d make the people around me miserable. If it’s a recurring pattern or loop, I’d either have to find a new job or a new bunch of customers/inner circle etc which was the case at different points in my life.

This is a hot topic I often talk about in my workshops and entertainment events, so I’m curious to hear what your experiences have been if you have found (permanent) JOY in career or work-LIFE-balance. Feel free to respond to this blog below!

Carpe Diem!

Carolyn xx


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