Hullo & Happiest of Mondays to you 🙂 June has just begun and it’s racing by us already. Almost halfway mark already. My word. This week I begin the series on career and human resource development so everyone can find their rightful place and purpose to use their gifts for optimum benefit. (Then the world can live as one! Kidding. I know those things only happen in the movies and storybooks we read as kids).
WHY we do what we do (aka our job!)
On an even more serious note. Why would I take the time to blog (for free) when I can be doing so many ‘other lucrative & fun’ things? What’s in for me?
That response may take well into the midnight hours (when most people are asleep), but in sum this is part of my life – kinda like breathing. I can however go without writing for periods on end (unlike breathing), but you can say it’s a vocation and my reason for being. But here’s the real reason behind this particular blog series.
Happy Shiny People – At Work
Making everyone happier at work (and in their personal life) means that everybody wins (at least in my mind – if the world can ever return to utopia, or as close to it as humanly possible).
If most people are happy that means we all consistently get a pleasant customer experience everywhere.we.go (at the very least!).
Naturally that would translate to repeat business (for business owners). And not just because patronage (due to convenience, habit or sheer necessity), but because customers truly regard that store or provider as a resource of choice for that particular item or service.
Here’s a further breakdown if everyone found their best job fit:
- We’d get exactly what we asked for (with no strings attached).
- We’d get less attitude and latent rage (previously fueled in part by poor job fit and the inability to sufficiently meet our needs and that of our families if we have one).
- We’d become emotionally and physically healthier (as more of our needs and wants are met and we find ourselves less concerned about what anybody else is doing since the yardstick for measurement or validity is removed and we’re more focused on doing what’s best for us at least 8/10 times of any given day, week, month or year).
On a more personal level, I’ve known almost from a wee tot that writing is what I wanted to do with my entire life and I’d never ever (ever) retire. It truly brings me joy, fuels my energy and is now a conditioned way of life where time stands still.
As a kid, teenager and young adult still navigating life: Who you are, your real purpose in this world and discovering maturity in a new way at each different turn, you never really can tell where exactly your life would take you.
I’m blown away each time I think I’ve peaked in a particular area. To say I was living on a prayer (or faith) alone would be an absurd understatement. It’s way more than prayer and faith. But that’s another (personal) story I’d save for another time.
I will share this. Somehow I’m organically led to the signs and people that open the doors (and windows) for more abundance and knowledge.
Each ONE influencing my thoughts and way of being in a uniquely different way and leaving a lasting memory.
Each ONE sharing some sort of affinity to my purpose and adding to the synergy and level of involvement of the next ‘relationship’ whether professional or personal.
The hardest part is knowing which door (and window) to open and actually opening it at the right time and allowing them in.
The second hardest part is finding the fortitude and resilience to continue going when lines get crossed (for a multitude of reasons).
Most of all knowing when it’s time to part ways and shut that door (or window) for good when the relationship is no longer healthy or beneficial.
That last part can be even harder than the first, since the good memories and lessons somehow keep sucking us back into the vortex of familiarity and comfort.
At the end of the day when we reflect on all that was said and done, a decision has to be made going forward as we weigh the benefits against the losses of anything (or anyone) in our lives especially when we become emotionally invested.
That is a very personal (and unique) decision only we can make for the overall benefit of ourselves, our health, our finances and our energy field since this has the potential to have far reaching consequences for all involved.
Sadly many things are not meant or built to last a lifetime as in the golden days of yore when life was beautiful in its simplicity. It’s doubly difficult to navigate and strike a balance with modernity if you don’t have the knowledge of what it was like before our amazing advancements. Applying the positive uses is vital in this age of travel, media and technology and pivotal to finding your best fit professionally and personally.
Enough about me. Onward to today’s blog! This one is for the employees and job seekers.
How to get a good job for you & keep it!
Here’s 3 things you need to know before, during and after you apply for any job.
- What skills do you have (people skills, organizational [admin, filing, typing etc], driving, sales, outdoorsy stuff [hiking, gardening, tour guiding], writing).
- What type of work you’d like to do (desk/field/phone/paperwork).
- What are your limits/weaknesses (rigid routine hours/shift work, proximity to home, school, children’s school etc, skill level, temperament, personality).
- Present yourself well on paper (dot your ‘i’s & cross your ‘t’s!). Make a study of yourself so you can live up to what’s on paper when you get called for the interview and no one can ever shake your sense of worth, or get under your skin for too long. Do your research so you know where to apply and what to expect so you aren’t at cross purposes with the delivery and expectations to and from your employer.
2. Work on your grooming way in advance so it becomes a way of life. This includes (but not limited to) nails, hair (style and color), shoes (versus sandals), dress code (conservative vs ultra casual), (excessive) jewelry, tattoos, piercings etc.
IMAGE means more at some establishments depending on their specific objectives, style of leadership and CLIENT base.
For example, if it’s not part of your persona to wear a shirt and tie, or jacket and skirt 5 days a week, it’s recommended that you do your research to find a company where you’d be most comfortable 4 out of 5 days in any given week.
If you want the experience of a large office setting for a few years (or off and on), set your mind on doing just that, find ways to hone your skills and conform to the rules. Likewise if your current lifestyle is more conducive to shift work.
Work on your speech: diction, projection, enunciation, articulation. Work on your body language: facial expressions, gestures, posture, stance, gait, fitness levels (if it’s a field job or front line job), a body image you are comfortable with (and can
defend rock no matter what).
Work on making eye contact and naturally so – without coming off too strong (or weird). Direct eye contact and being able to articulate your views screams confidence and assertiveness (versus aggressiveness and
cockiness entitlement obnoxiousness).
If you are working in a country that’s not native to you, I suggest you learn the norms and customs so you won’t
stick out feel like a sore thumb. As the old saying goes: ‘When in Rome, do as the Romans’ etc et cetera etc! Just don’t lose yourself (or true identity or respect) in the process just for the sake of fitting in, or earning a dollar (unless of course you don’t mind and have absolutely nothing to lose).
3. Get familiar with the location of the interview and your potential employer. The parking options, general safety, lighting, colours and chi (energy, balance) as this will most likely affect your composure and mood over time if you get the job.
Ensure that you get there way early. Not so early that you need to wait at the diner down the street till the company open its doors to staff. But early enough to allow leeway for excessive traffic jams, a bathroom stop, rain/snow/hail/sleet, car trouble, a gas strike or wardrobe change due to a ripped hem, spilt coffee (or baby spit up) etc.
Get familiar with the industry and organization. If you really want this particular job and would like to make it into a long term career, you’d need to do your research really well and learn everything there is to know. So much so that your interviewers will be stunned speechless and wonder if you’re part psychic.
Know who are the major ‘players’, competitors, target market (customers), company history, core values, suppliers (if publicly available – don’t go snooping!), management/board of directors, public profit margins if published in the press or annual report (based on how much income you think you’re capable of earning in the long term, your current expenses and future goals).
In the absence of knowing actual names and faces, be kind and pleasant to everyone (regardless of their demeanor or dress). From the person who opens the door for you, to the person who picked up your napkin that dropped to the floor in the tea room. Since you never know if this could be the owner of the company, the owner’s son, grandson or daughter. And where they’d be in a few years when you meet again.
You need to know how the company you aspire to work at treats their staff and customers. If there’s high turnover, lots of strikes, go-slows, sick-outs, money paid out in law suits to staff and customers, a high volume of complaints, exchanges/returned goods, disgruntled customers and lackadaisical staff, I don’t think this company has much (happy) staying power for you, but that’s not my call.
- Send a brief ‘thank you’ note/email to your interviewers [the same day of the interview], or the day after. If you haven’t heard from them after two weeks, you can either send an email or call on the company line through the operators.
(Do not under any circumstance, I repeat do.not.show up on their doorstep inquiring as to whether you were successful at the interview! Nor continue to badger or email them or feign friendship with the receptionist. Far less text the recruiters if you happen to come by their mobile number. Unless of course there is some sense of obvious, natural and mutual familiarity of which both parties are receptive!).
2. Use this interview and all of your life and work experiences as tools to add value and depth to your interactions with [future] staff and customers. Don’t feel bad if you don’t get this particular job since the job market is particularly tough and skewed in a particular direction depending on how well you know the industry and the culture/environment/country you’d like to work in.
As with most things in life; the more interviews you attend and the more you put yourself out there is the more confident you’d become, the more knowledge you’d gain on how things work and the closer you’d get to your dream job on your terms.
You must creep before you walk (so to speak) to be able to naturally demonstrate that you deserve to be paid and treated commensurate to the value you bring (versus ostentatiously bragging to the recruiters or bashing the competition, but rather waiting for the opportunity to prove your validity, or salt to use this cliché).
Put simply: You’d develop resilience [thicker skin] with the ability to not take things so personally. Conflict and disappointment won’t be as crushing as you’d become more adept to reading the signs and gradually more aligned to your ideal job fit.
3. Quietly observe everyone and everything.
Close your eyes (and ears and mouth) to ANY-thing that does not concern you – unless you are in a position to change it for the better! Even so, you must be aware of how things work and ALL the facts if you are even going to make a dent in improving it and sustaining the changes.
If you can’t change the issues that affect you directly, you’ll just appear to be a
taddle tale gossip (or a professional one if your views are not expressed diplomatically and discerningly) which you do not want. People who are not yoked in that regard will lose trust and confidence in you and automatically distance themselves away.
Even if this job does not work out (or the one after this), hey life and values and times are changing. So don’t beat yourself up too long especially if you are now entering the workforce, or a new field/career. If however you see a pattern with jobs, then maybe you’d want to do your research on potential employers (and yourself) a bit more to find a place where you feel you can function as optimally as possible.
If you are very young (or close to retirement) with no commitments and nothing significant to lose and can hold out for another job, there’s no point in
suffering staying somewhere for a prolonged period of time if it’s definitely not you and you can’t (exponentially) thrive as you should and were meant to in life.
If on the other hand, you have responsibilities and will have to beg or borrow to live a fairly comfortable life to meet your current expenses and lifestyle, by all means hang on to that job with all your might! Or find another job (or try to save aplenty, pick up a sales job or hobby to make extra cash) before you hand in your resignation (as you keep this as much a secret as you can possibly bear).
Lastly (for today’s blog) – if you know you’ll need the support of your bosses and co-workers again and you truly share an affinity with some, try your best to not burn bridges since life is one helluva small kettle of fish at a 360 degree turn.
If there’s one valuable lesson I’ve learnt is that no matter what you do or say; you can’t force anyone to like you, love you, buy from you, believe in you, be friends with you, or be there for you (all in) if they really do not share your values or walk in life.
More importantly if people are not comfortable with who they are, where they are in life and take the time to sufficiently heal their past, there may never be a true synergy and nobody’s really ever to blame.
At the end of it all you must have the gumption to consistently put yourself first. Then the inner chatter will fade into the background as you become a master of YOU, inching closer and closer to attracting exactly what and who you want in your life for keeps.
Have a beautiful week everybody!
Carpe Diem & My Endless Love, Carolyn x