How do you know when it’s time to change gears?

Holay! It’s been a while since my ‘last’ … b/log. I woke up this morning with an idea and new energy for this blog post as I get asked this stuff a lot (over the years).

Since starting this blog in November 2008, I (and it) has[ve] been through so many different changes. Back then I had a full time job, then when I switched jobs (and careers) in 2013 I still couldn’t be separated from my first love (writing).

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I found new ways to incorporate my love into my new job (via newsletters etc). And on weekends and after work I blogged my heart away.

Here’s a bit more about how this journey and way of life sort of came together subconsciously through intent.

(I promise I won’t start from the beginning since that may be another book!)


After 15 years of various forms of expression, I still don’t get weary of pursuing this passion. Whether it’s for money or a hobby, I will never retire (from writing).

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In those days I often looked to my co-workers for feedback and advice since I was unsure of the impact I was having with this new type of lifestyle writing as it’s now being called. 

They were all very encouraging. Soon my sideline passion morphed into column writing for one of the largest and most read local Sunday magazines (circa 2008-2010). The response though not overwhelming was very moving and re-ignited my passion.

Disclaimer: What I’m about to describe is in no way meant to boast or brag about my accomplishments; but to demonstrate one simple, but life-changing point.

How much you do with your unique talent(s); how much money you make and more importantly – the impact you make is totally dependent on what are your ever-changing goals, how hard you are willing to work, reinvent, engage and put yourself out there.

It all comes back to your true love. If you don’t love what you do, there’ll never be any drive to continue reinventing to attract what and who you need to enjoy more fruits of your labour.

While still holding down a full-time job (I had plateaued at); pursuing post graduate studies and a broadcasting course, I volunteered, contributed and found more ways to grow my talent and skills at and outside the confines of my job.

The column writing filtered into writing for regional and international magazines during that same period. That then morphed into book writing, which later morphed into public speaking, presenting and poetry (you can also say humourous writing + speaking).

That then morphed into (documentary) scriptwriting, content writing, human interest stories, workshops and [self-produced] entertainment events. And well, I guess the rest is the future!

(There’s more though … please scroll with me 😉 )

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To reinforce the reason for sharing this, I’ll say that most of those adages that have become so cliche are true to the letter. Most apt here is: ‘nothing worthwhile happens overnight‘.

Here’s another shocker: I really did not choose this profession. It’s a vocation I was led to every step of the way.

My heart was not completely into my full time jobs and careers. Though there were many priceless moments and learning experiences I enjoyed and people I met along the way, many would say to me that I had way more to offer the world.

I myself didn’t fully believe it. I thought some were patronizing me (to be honest).

But in retrospect those moments in between is what led me to this rich life experience I now enjoy daily doing what I love on my own terms (most times).

Even on the days I’m not super busy (rolling in $$$, or being positive because of the rain), I silently build on what I learnt during those decades that helped me to finally ‘JUMP’ and begin building my brand.

It was a huge risk at times, but somehow there was always a stronger positive ‘force’ leading me back to my rightful destiny (which ironically is still sort of a mystery).

When the challenging times arise, I fully immerse myself in them to go way beyond the surface to find solutions for overcoming and share with others in some form.

Many of the great incomparable life gurus who have (visibly) made it BIG personally, financially and spiritually tell us that one of the surefire ways to receive abundance is to give what you have been blessed to have/enjoy.

It does not always have to be monetary, but simple unconscious (natural) gestures may mean more than we knowA thought, a sincere prayer, an apology, a hug, advice. Or just knowing that someone believes in you wholeheartedly with no strings attached.

Whether or not the other person truly appreciates it, or receives what you ‘give’/extend in the same way you intended, matters little if you give from the heart.

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People receive gestures and express appreciation and loyalty based on where they’re at on the journey. 

Our socialization, history, hang-ups, insecurities and burdens all influence the dynamics of human behaviour.



Of course it may sting a bit if you expected to be treated in the same way, but time heals most wounds and new experiences allow you to forget (though the memory may never be totally erased under ‘normal’ circumstances).

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In life, you always have 2 options: be the victim, or the victor. It’s not always an easy choice or action. But if you are pure in heart and passionate in thought, nothing in life will be difficult.

If you find yourself stuck, attracting the same people and situations in different ways, remember you attract what you are and what you exude.

It’s truly a balancing act between confidence + humility and assertiveness + aggressiveness, depending on where you find yourself at any given moment.

If you find yourself having to explain; justify and defend yourself, your decisions, your stance, your words and your abilities multiple times and in multiple ways, then attempting to placate and compensate, then you have a pivotal decision to make.

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In order to find our catharsis and progress in all aspects of our life, we either have to find a way to change/shift our energy, change/shift our surroundings or change/shift the people with whom we closely associate as required.

(Of course, this is easier said than done. If it was as easy as drinking a potion, then there would be world peace, no crime, no hate, no poverty, just love + understanding 😉 ).

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Best wishes for an amazing Thursday, Friday and weekend. Remember we are being led.

Be still, reflect, observe, discern and obey the signs.

Stay true to the undeniable truths anyone (past or present) has ever said to you throughout your life.

Listen to your heart and go with your gut to make the choices that are right for you at any given moment.

At the same time, keep in mind that everyone is coming from a different emotional, spiritual and social place, so don’t take it for granted that each person we encounter understands our words and actions and can receive them in the same way.

My Endless Love,

Carolyn xx

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