Hey all, lemme tell ya: 2017 was one of the toughest years for me (prolly since the coup! Since it happened on my birthday too).
I didn’t intend for this blog to be this long; but you’ll wanna read to the end and look at the nifty photo slideshow I created Just for You! (If you wait for it, it’s down under)
Trust me, you’ll leave with a smile and perhaps some inspiration to take with you in the week(s) ahead…
Seriously, it’s because of all of you, I continue to do what I do. I may have ‘packed-up-shop’ long days and moved to the mountains.
But I do love the fulfillment it brings.
Not only to myself; but when others genuinely and unselfishly value your sweat, tears, sacrifice, time and ‘heart’ you devote to your craft.
I’m not sure if some of you remember my blog early this year, when I spoke about my experience volunteering at my alma mater’s 2017 World of Work Mock interview session for the university graduates.
It’s something I’ve always wanted to do, but this was the first year I actually did and boy, I was literally doing cartwheels as I drove to my next destination (in my mind of course).
All the tea in China, couldn’t take me down from that high derived from sharing.
Only today, I had a light bulb moment about why it turned out so well:
Everything happens at the right time. It yields maximum results only when you’re truly ready. – Carolyn K. Correia (c) 2017
I’m not sure if I’m gonna do it again next year, but I sure made this experience count (with my Literature, HR, media and entrepreneurship mix of experience). It made me realize that I really enjoy and want to do more things of this nature on my own volition.
To make a long story longer, the graduates that came to our table all volunteered feedback that it was an unexpected, non-boring, [professional] learning experience.
I added a couple of them to my mailing list; who expressed interest in writing as a career and out of that experience, one student and I kept in touch sporadically via email/blogs.
I had no words to describe the precise feeling, when I read her deconstruction (insert literature jargon) of my memoir: How To Find Yourself & Claim What’s Yours. I don’t even know how it managed to slip my mind to ask for feedback, until recently.
For those of you ‘young’ enough to remember that 90s TV show- Clarissa Explains it All, Karisa’s passion kinda reminds me of Clarissa (:
As a lit and psych graduate, her analysis of my book is as profound, as it is inspiring. But as my Dad used to say (God rest his soul), “A fisherman don’t say his fish is rotten. You’re beating your drum and dancing it too”.
I remember looking at him with this signature Carolyn look on my face, each. time. he. said.it. as if to say, “But Dad-dyyyy!” 😀 That’s how I keep his memory alive … he was hella funny and sage. But I guess, everybody’s daddy is special to them in their own way.
On a serious note, I’m not forcing you to purchase [‘fish you don’t need’] But
seeing reading is believing. It might just be what you or someone you care about need to find your catharsis and healing at this very moment.
You can read all about what Karisa Bridgelal had to say and draw your own conclusions. (Who btw was the valedictorian of her graduating class. Umm … like how did I know that was gonna happen! Really I didn’t, but I’m not surprised). Feel free to also check out her blog here.
“Firstly, your writing is like having a conversation with a best friend. It was one of the most accommodating, easiest reads because it was so interesting and profound.
Chapter 6 was my favourite chapter. I loved every bit of it.
I believe it was called: ‘The key to unlocking your joy’.
I always struggle with the notion that to be happy, I need this job or this money, because I never grew up as a rich kid, but I always had what I needed.
When you talked about (and if I remember correctly): You used to think that having the dream job would make you happy.
One thing I also struggled with, is thinking you need this ‘dream relationship’ to make yourself happy; which I realise now means nothing, until you love yourself first and you are happy with yourself.
What really resonated with me was when you spoke about introspection.
I really had to ask myself what I needed in my life to equal happiness. I was surprised to have some of those things already – such as the love of my family.
(Sorry if this email is all over the place, I’m getting excited as I recall what I remember)
The way you mix the personal with the business was effortless.
You fully expanded on how your personal development can equip your professional journey… And I am lucky to have such insight.
Since I’ve met you, I’ve looked up to you. I read all your blog posts, because I get the emails straight to my phone almost immediately.
The loss of your dad and how you dealt with it, subconsciously gave me a frame of reference in how I dealt with my own loss of my grandma.
The idea that we can’t control what happens in life, life just happens – is something we hear a lot, but you really deconstructed what that meant.
I learnt that it is how we live life and what we make of the moments – no matter how they played out.
That’s why I continued striving for better after grandma died. She died right before finals began and my mum had to postpone grandma’s funeral, so I could write my first exam.
Writing an exam and walking to my dad’s car to head home to the wake of my second mother was one of the worst moments of my life, but something in me used it as motivation to make her proud.
I hope I can always continue to make you proud [as well Ms. Carolyn] :-)”
Awwwwwww squared! Wasn’t that The Sweetest Review you’ve ever read?!
When I read some of her emails, sometimes I feel her pain and see her gratitude, I tear up to know that I’ve only met her once and kept in touch via email and my words had such a potent impact on her, as she navigated some of life’s harsh realities.
It may sound a little melodramatic, but it feels almost as though she’s like the daughter I never had! But I cannot even dream to take credit for this amazing young lady.
I remember how hard it was going through my twenties and even early thirties (yes! I am that young lol); so when I see that kind of passion, ambition and sincerity, it’s only natural that I share my experience and heart.
All the best to you darling. From what I’ve read and seen in your responses, you are already a university lecturer in my eyes, you just need the piece of paper to qualify you.
Please stay humble and grounded, carrying with you the memories and values bestowed upon you from your parents and grandma. I’m sure she’s looking after you with pride.
It’s not my place to say this, but I’d say it anyway. Don’t ever let success, attention/fame and/or material things cause you to lose sight of what’s truly important in life.
You already possess the qualities for true abundance:
Determination+Eagerness+Humility+Commitment+Wisdom [beyond your years]+Gratitude+Solid Foundation/Good Family Values = Success.
I thought you’d enjoy reading her Amazon review as well, but I shared this one above on my personal blog, since I found it so emotive and ‘personal’.
Feel free to check out the memoir on your right, along with my other titles; especially for the reasons above, or to gift a friend, loved one, colleague, employee or someone in need.
It’s perfect for those at a crossroads in their life or career; those who have experienced or currently experiencing loss, artists, graduates or retirees, as they reflect on their own life.
Please share this post and when you purchase the book, I’d be honored if you’d be so kind as to leave a review on My Amazon Page.
The first two books are available at select local bookstores identified on my website.
Guys, following your true passion can seem surreal at times…
But then life happens …
There’ll be times when variables get in the way and you feel as though you’re not hitting the bullseye in the way you’d like.
But if you step back and access your milestones and how you can tweak your strategy to accomplish your bigger goals – A simple shift can kickstart things in the right direction – once your intentions are pure!
I’m not saying this to boast. But there are countless people over the years who have shared very profound, non-cookie-cutter feedback (which I seldom share publicly, unless it’s meant to help others in some way, or just over-the-top sentimental to keep to myself).
I cannot even process the quantum of the effect my writing and talks and interactions have influenced others – in times of pain or transition – even in my imperfect state and painful moments!
Sometimes it backfires with a sparse few of those same people you helped with pure intentions and at times, it makes you question the very act of giving.
That’s why I practice discernment and learn to read ‘energy’, but I guess some things have to happen in life for you to grow and be in a better position to wholeheartedly embrace future experiences.
When this happens, I say to myself,
“Carolyn, as humans we are imperfect beings. Some of us oscillate between different degrees of enlightenment [which is all relative].Your true reward is not on this realm.Just be more conscious that you are truly blessed and placed on this earth for a reason (as everyone else). Try harder to overcome your foibles, to make an even bigger impact and evolve to that state of lasting zen and abundance that you always crave…”
That’s all she wrote. If you got to the end, I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Until next time…
Cheers to the weekend everybody 🙂
There’s loads more exciting things to come. Feel free to follow my journey, by subscribing to my blog and social media pages via: www.carolyncorreia.com