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It’s seems that time is one of those rare commodities that many times escape us. When we were younger we couldn’t wait for time to pass so we could get to do grown up things. Like getting to be the legal age to drive and date and drink, and all the other cool stuff our elders seemed to enjoy.

Then when we are grown up, we want to slow down, because we realize that some of those things aren’t all that they cracked up to be. In retrospect, we may sometimes want to go back in time to a more innocent period of our life’s journey when things were uncomplicated.

Meditation teaches us that there’s no time like the present. That you cannot live in the past since you can’t change it, nor the future because you have no control on that either. However, if you focus on the present, you are better able to manage your thoughts and train your mind to deal with the challenges that come your way.

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I am by no means an expert on life or the psychology of the mind, however the gift of writing helps me focus my thoughts and the inspiration flows to bring more clarity to the issues that present themselves in daily life.

Life is somewhat of an enigma, however I have found that if we learn to slow down and take a step back from the busyness of life, it has been my experience that you gain a greater perspective on your foibles and how to correct them, as well as an appreciation for the simple things we sometimes take for granted. Then almost magically, from the perceived chaos, comes silent epiphanies.

Like the time, you put your foot in your mouth and pushed someone away without knowing. Or the moment you made a mountain out of a molehill when things always seem to have a way of working out.

Maybe you forgot what a great boss or job you have. Or how you need to spend more quality time with the great parents, spouse or kids you think will always be there. Or how your talent comes effortlessly and lights up someone else’s world.

The fact that your health and peace of mind are at all-time high in this moment, is something that we also realize is relative as we go through life.

Time can sometimes be a blessing or a curse, depending on how you look at it. As we turn another corner, many of us already had birthdays for the year or will soon celebrate another year of life.

So many shudder and conceal our ages since society celebrates youthfulness and beauty, however as a younger human being, we were happy to say we were 8 ½ or almost 18! Funny, how life changes.

The true blessing is when we are fully present in each of those 12 months of each year of life and squeeze every last drop of living out of them. In this way, there would be no regrets about getting older, because we would have fully experienced and celebrated each phase of our journey.

We would have worked just for the fun of it because we enjoy what we do and are making a difference in someone else’s world. We would have cried our eyes out when we were sad, hurt or angry and experienced all those emotions until we found our catharsis and healing.

Most of all, we would have loved with all our heart, even if we are not loved back or the way in which we would have liked. We would have shed that burden of keeping our feelings bottled up inside. We would have shed our inhibitions and gotten high off that feeling of joy, freedom and giving.

Then when true love comes, we would have learned from all those experiences and come full circle to receive and give of ourselves to become a part of an amazing, healthy and reciprocal whole.

Whether you’re sweet 16 or 93, time is one of the most beautiful gifts of life, once mastered, you would have captured the true essence of living. The secret lies in your perspective, liberation of the mind and adapting to change.

Carolyn K. Correia is the author of Thinking out Loud, How To Find Yourself and Claim What’s Yours and she missed the boat on love. She is also a communications consultant, freelance writer, blogger and motivational speaker. Learn more here or stay updated on Facebook –CarolynCorreiaAuthor.

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