Do you have people in your life like this?

Warmest Sunday greetings to one and all!

The feedback I’ve been getting on my blog in person, on Whats-app and via this platform from friends and strangers – local and international alike have been all sorts of amazing. I’m so glad that you stopped by to share and comment. It’s every writer’s dream.

This thing called life! Where do I begin!?

If I understood the game of cricket well enough, I’d quote a nifty lingo. But I don’t and I’d just embarrass myself if I do, so I’ll stick to what I know 🙂

As I was thinking what to blog about earlier tonight, several thoughts were rolling around in my head. But now they’re all gone with the wind, so I’ll just wing it.

Every year and every day I’m learning so much. I’m going to fascinating new places and experiencing new and exciting things. I’m meeting so many fantastic people, many of whom become instant friends.

Sometimes I run into people I haven’t seen in a long time and it’s like no time has passed.

We laugh, we cry OK not really! But sometimes the sharing IS that emotional and REAL! The energy and depth of it all is soo darn amazing I can’t help but smile to myself, as I am ‘richer’ today for having met these people and had these experiences.#itsalovething

I would like to think that I have a gift to make people comfortable enough to share their life story with me, but I don’t want to be so forward. So if anyone out there experiences the same thing, please comment below!

But even as early as my late teens (before I transformed into this sociable, non-stop chatter box) people would open up to me. (Sometimes I think if I got paid to be quiet, I may go hungry LOL.)

Then out of the blue this happens…

photo credit – Phoebe Dill.

Some of the people who you see often are not as overjoyed by your presence as they once were! And I ask myself, Self: But why, oh why/how can this be?

I count to 10, touch my toes, take a deep breath, go away, get busy with life and I come back and it’s the same. I’m still stumped.

I’ve come up with one of 3 things. Either:

a) they take you for granted, because they know you’d always be there, just like yesterday.

b) they see the real you – up close and personal and they didn’t realize that you are a real person because they “fell in love” with the ‘persona’ of who they thought you were…all glamorous with all your ducks in a row.

They got caught up in the fairy tale and now they’re just not interested in the entire package, only what makes them happy in the moment.

Or c) they never had any genuine intentions in the first place and just don’t care enough to stick around and invest in a meaningful friendship. It may be a lopsided relationship. And that’s life. As one person changes, the other person stays the same through no fault of either party.

The relationships that do last through the ages are built on solid ground – character and unconditional love. It’s about compromise, empathy, acceptance, loyalty and maturity.

Adapting to change is sometimes the hardest part of life for many people. Loss comes in various forms – some voluntary, some involuntary – death, divorce, migration, break-ups.

The trick is letting your ending serve as a new beginning.

The beginning of a new friendship, the beginning of a new life, new freedom, independence, healing, discernment, knowing yourself, letting go of the hurt and baggage of our past and learning to love yourself and live life on your terms.

No need to hold your breath anymore. Seasons change. Exhale! Breathe! Everything is not that serious. For everything else there’s wine!

Now to take my own advice! Ha.

Sometimes I don’t know where this inspiration comes from. But God. Only He can bring these gifts to life. Thanking Him now and always. (And tonight I actually made it to church! My priest was very happy to welcome me back! 🙂

One day I’ll probably write a true life autobiography and connect the dots of the puzzle! I reckon, that’ll be an international best seller!!!

Until then,

Peace & Love,
Carolyn xo

ps hope I made you smile today and even laugh out loud 🙂 If I did, holler at me in the comments below!

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Have a beauuutiful week!!! Muah x


  1. Oh my, I needed to hear this today. We made a big move last year and I feel like we’re still recovering and building/nurturing new relationships. This was very encouraging to keep moving forward! Thanks! 🙂

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    • I’m so glad it helped Samantha! We just have to keep nurturing and watering those seeds…and the result will be healthy relationships that also help us grow in return 🙂 Thanks for reading. Feel free to also subscribe to my blog.


  2. I believe very much in the saying nothing lasts forever. Just like people, we come into each others lives for a reason or a season. When their time with you has ended, that’s the way it had to be. Their story in your life is over. Then there are the ones who will remain with you through thick and thin, no matter what they will be there.


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