There’s always two sides to a story

Another week has come to an end. Hope yours was as special as you are. I realized late in life that no matter how good a person or special you think you are, not everyone is going to feel the same way. Some will just not get you and there’s nothing you can do about it.

You may mean the world to one person, but you may just rub another the wrong way. And no matter how hard you try, you just would not mesh and they would never see in you, what countless others love, appreciate and accept about you.

Sometimes it’s not even about you, so many variables may come into play which may include their past experiences, hurts, insecurities or simply what you represent to them.

photo credit – Evelyn Mostram.

And it’s not your fault, so don’t even try to figure it out or blame yourself, just DO YOU and appreciate all the ones that love and support you.

In the end, there’s always two sides of a story. Life is not black and white, there’s a lot of greys and off whites and a kaleidoscope of colours in between.

The trick is being able to appreciate all of these colours, even the somber ones and paint with them anyway.

This blog is different for a change. It shows a different side of me that hasn’t surfaced in a while in my writing.

While many things may be fantastic in our lives at a given point in time, we all have those days where for no reason in particular (or maybe one or two BIG reasons in particular) you don’t feel like putting on your bright colours and going outside to play.

Maybe it’s because of external factors outside of your control. Or maybe it’s internal factors that you can’t understand or maybe it’s a combination of the two.

It could be your job, one aspect of your life not going the way you expected, our comparisons to others, a recent disappointment, your kids not doing well, sickness, the loss of a loved one or just love gone wrong.

But think: if everything was perfect all the time and there were no bad times, we won’t be able to appreciate the good times when they arrive.

Life was never meant to be smooth sailing. As much as we try to get all the different pieces in sync and to work the way we want all the time, some variable always comes along to test us…to make us stronger…to prove our faith…to show us a better way. In retrospect, we realize we are better for it.

And as much as we may want something to work, there’s always a greater plan for us. We may not be able to see it or comprehend it for all it’s worth at the particular point in time, but we must trust and obey the signals.

photo credit – Volkan Olmez.

The signs that scream, “NO, this is wrong.” “This doesn’t feel right.” “I deserve better.” Listen to your body, your intuition, the messages that resonate in your core, your heart, your soul. They never lead you wrong. 

And most of all, remember the old cliched statement, “Everything happens for a reason.” It’s not to be underestimated. All your perceived mistakes, decisions, disappointments, failures, heartbreaks, disasters and losses are all a part of your life’s story. Forgive yourself…you are only human.

It’s part of the bigger picture. We must trust that there’s a reason and purpose for everything we experience in life even the painful or inexplicable moments.

There are angels walking beside us in human form, if we only let them in. For every ‘bad’ person you meet, there’s at least 5 more that really have your back and care for you unconditionally.

They’re your friends, they’re your family, they’re strangers you meet randomly on a bus or coffee shop. It may be a client or salesperson in a store. A musician, a writer or an artist.

The support is everywhere if only you open yourself up to the possibilities that surround you.

This week, this day, this moment is only one experience,

the best is yet to come.

Have a beautiful weekend.

Until next time,

Peace & Love,
Carolyn xo

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  1. It is wonderful to be reminded that what we are experiencing this moment, today and this week only comes once, to me I have to make it matter. I might not be in a good place, but I can look forward for the best that is yet to come. I must focus on giving support to others now, because there is always support when I need it. Thank you Carolyn


    • You are welcome Ramona. Well what we experience today is only one experience. It may come again in different forms, but when it comes we will have the wisdom of the past to handle it better.

      You have to fight to ensure that you always return to your happy place and not remain in that not so good place for too long. It’s poison to your spirit.

      If you need to go outside, take a drive, exercise, sing a song, listen to music or just be around different people for a while.

      Change up your routine, talk to your good friends, laugh…it does wonders for your soul. Take care.


  2. I can relate to parts of this article. Thanks for the reminder that these variables happen to make us stronger and help us appreciate the good periods. Keep sharing.


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