Heya…It’s that time again…my after-midnight blogging ritual…#InspirationEscape
After a long tiring week, the weekend is a wonderful and refreshing escape from it all. I must update readers with the continuation of my movie ratings before I begin…earlier tonight I saw The Counselor…a fabulous cast of actors, but another disappointing end to a movie that started with such promise…a bit gory but I don’t want to spoil it for many of you who may want to see it. I’m afraid it gets only 2 stars.
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Sometimes in life, we go through changes, transitions and exchanges with different people that enter and leave our life. We learn from one another and grow and evolve as time goes by. Sometimes we have expectations about different situations and people. Some of us expect life to be always fun and exciting and that people will always remain the same. We expect different people to react the same way to the same things…or for different people to react the same way as us. We expect our feelings to remain the same over a period of time and when they don’t, we search ourselves for a possible reason why, sometimes even blaming ourselves for things that we think shouldn’t change have.
Being a person that often questions things, I feel that I can perhaps share my insights into this phenomenon. Some of us sometimes carry with us preconceived notions about people we encounter based on our past experiences and interactions. We let it affect how we view that person and sometimes places obstacles in our path when dealing with them. We forget that everyone and every situation is unique in some shape or form and we share different backgrounds, histories and hangups which dictate how we relate to each other.
When our feelings about something changes whether it is a job, relationship or place, at times it is through no fault of our own. It could be due to a number of factors including factors surrounding the said subjects. It could be that we have evolved based on our growth and development and experiences, or the fact that our priorities have changed and we want different things out of life which that job, relationship or place are not capable of providing. Perhaps we have fulfilled our purpose/goal where these things are concerned and it has run its course. Although these things may have remained the same for someone else, it just means that person is not in the same place as you are or due to the fact that they are simply a different individual with different things going for them.
Although I once thought life needed to be flowing like a song all of the time and always be fun and exciting…maturity and tolerance have stepped in and over time, I’ve grown to have patience and marvel in the mysteries and challenges of life. They are all opportunities for something greater…for transformation…for the development of character. Fun and excitement are relative and beauty is in the eyes of the beholder: What may be fun for you, might be like watching paint dry for someone else and vice versa. That’s why comparison is never good and we ought to desist from this practice because it will only drive us crazy and make us insecure about our own accomplishments, talents and blessings.
Food for Thought:
- Life and priorities change through no fault of your own. Don’t blame yourself if your feelings change about things while it doesn’t change for others. Live with abandon according to your own rules.
- Live your own life and forget about measuring yourself to others. When we focus on what’s important to us, we enjoy life more and realize the value of what we have.
- Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Make your own reality fabulous and revel in the simple things that make your own moments magical.
Warning: This is an inside joke for some of my friends: So sometimes “overthinking” pays off in the end!! (I like to call it my form of meditation…:-)
Peace & Love xo